Recently, Helena, Doran and Elijah selected some books to add to their libraries. This time they used a gift from their sweet cousin, McKenzie. Presently, Helena is deep into Fairyland. It's fairies almost all the time around here. She has been coming home with some less-than-stellar fairy books from the school library. All of her little friends are reading them.
Armed with her gift card, Helena was on the search for more books. I actually suggested that she try to find some fairy books. I find it's definitely a fine line between controlling the process and gently guiding the process. It was her gift to do with as she pleases, but Greg and I also mindful about what comes into the house and into the children's worlds.
This may sound overprotective or even paranoid to some, but I believe children are exposed to way too much too soon these days. The atmosphere around play and childhood is much different from when I was a child. It's almost as if children are little profit units for large corporations. Marketers have actually admitted to pushing children to "grow up younger". I know I could barely believe it myself.
Overbearing commercialism seems to have taken over much of childhood and our children's imaginations. We don't prevent all commericial toys or books from our house, but there are limits. I want the children to be able to choose what they like, and I also want them to know that their imaginations, reading, and play are not meant to be circumscribed by giant toy corporations (and this is from someone who enjoys Thomas and Star Wars). For an eye-opening discussion about this subject, check out Simplicity Parenting.
One awesome resource we use for books, besides research and word-of-mouth, is The New York Times Parent's Guide to the Best Books for Children. There are a lot of old-fashioned, non-commercialized, yet still amazing reading choices for children. We have the 1992 version so I know it's are missing more recent treasures, and I can't vouch for newer versions of this guide.
But back to the fairy book search, Helena found a book called Twig. Everyone loves it. The book is about a little girl who finds a fairy, and an elf. She even talks to the birds. This book was first published in 1942. A good thing about Twig is that the protagonist is a poor little girl. She uses string to keep the sole of her shoe attached to its upper. It's a good "view" into a child's life that is financially different than their own.
I was happy Helena chose this one. I was also impressed with the reviewers who describe books so vividly. When she read that the book had magic and fairies in a tomato can, she was hooked (as were her brothers). Every night, they plead for more chapters.
So I am interested, each family is different and has different comfort levels with media, commercialism and toys. How do you approach toy and book choices in your house?