I need Cape Cod today or something like it. I'll take a pond at this point. This morning was one of those mornings when I am left exhausted, wishing school were already over. Tuesdays are now choir rehearsal days for Doran. He loves choir and since there is so little he seems to like enough to participate in, Greg and I gladly encourage choir. There are a few things I think he would love to do but doesn't have the motor coordination or speed in order to participate in a mainstream school band or sports team. He can participate in mainstream choir. He does it very well and most importantly he loves it.
It's important enough that I spend once a week really rushing in hopes of to getting the children fed, dressed, snacks and lunches prepared and all of us out of the door by 7:30am on choir days. I can count on one hand how many times that has happened for the whole year of choir. I know many of you conquer this feat daily(and at earlier times) and I am in awe. However, no matter how early I am up, or how early I get the kids up or how much I have prepared the night before, we usually end up late-not too late, but late all the same. It's really easy to get into a self-criticizing spiral about that though I try not to go there.
Usually it's one of the following that contributes to the tardiness: someone has a tantrum; someone really messes up a diaper or training underwear at an really inopportune moment; another person can't find what I told him or her to put in his or her backpack the night before; someone falls down the stairs (I'm not joking); the town decides to do major intersection work during rush hour; it goes on and on.
This choir morning was pretty unbelievable. Doran had one of his intense sneezing incidents (a lot of children with autism have sensitivities to the environment that cause different atypical and intense physical reactions). I won't go into it due to the gross factor, but it's an unpredictable morning ritual-occurring anytime from the moment he wakes up to when he steps into the school doors. I don't know what happens after that. With so much going on every morning, I can't hover over him with tissues, and he has yet to get the timing of using one on his own so you can imagine how things develop. This is one way autism affects him.
Then I discovered that Doran had opened the child-resistant (ha!) cap to the liquid allergy medicine and simply balanced it on top of the bottle-perfectly. I couldn't even tell it was open until I picked the bottle up by the cap and medicine flowed freely all over the inside of the cabinet. I should know by now to never pick up anything in this house by the cap. I think I need some behavioral training too. ;-)
We did manage to get out of the house, but then there was a huge traffic jam on the side street that I use to get out of our neighborhood. I;m talking cars hanging out in the middle of the intersection through red and green lights kind of traffic jam. I imagine there was some sort of chaos on the interstate because this rarely happens. I took the long way to school so that we were at least moving and had a chance of getting to school while choir rehearsal was in session. Helena was not pleased with this development. Doran was a good 25 minutes late for rehearsal, but he got there.
Luckily the choir director understands that I am working by myself in the mornings. Doran doesn't do too well waiting for things to start anyway. It's usually much better when he can go right into something and start. It works out but I still have nagging guilt.
So this morning I am left with a need for Cape Cod. Maybe you are too after reading this. ;-) Thanks for your patience and for coming along for the school morning ride. I'm happy to hear your stories too. Feel free to share any morning or day challenges you have had lately. I'm all ears.
And now it's time for some soothing pictures.



The dunes can get very tall. I find them fascinating.



Tasty and inexpensive seafood can be found here.


Ah better now. This makes me feel like I can go anywhere and do anything. Happy Tuesday!